EmotionalSkills: Stress

Indeed, but what is stress?

Stress is a reaction to an overload of difficulties and a reaction to that circumstance by an individual’s idiosyncratic learnt behaviour. Stress can be external and connected to the experience or situation, but may also be triggered by internal perceptions. These, often irrational, thought processes can cause an individual to feel exaggerated negative feelings relating to the difficult situation.

A new study* has found that over the past year, almost three quarters (74%) of people have at some point felt so stressed that they felt overwhelmed or unable to cope.

“If you remain passive, thinking, ‘I can’t do anything about my problem’, your stress will get worse,” says Professor Gary Cooper from the University of Lancaster. 

So, what to do? There are lots of positive things that stressed people can do. Make contact with people, do some physical exercise, volunteer and help others. Take up learning?

If you are stressed, try to think mindfully. Say to yourself, “Right, I’m starting to move towards being stressed, so let’s contemplate mindfully, rather than ruminate mindlessly.” A deep self-awareness helps and trying to be flexible and kind to yourself is beneficial. Mindfulness can really help bring some relief and comfort.

Many Emotionalskills clients come to us with work related stress. Sometimes they can change their jobs and lifestyle, but they often do not have any chance of altering their occupation, so they might have to accept this and try to focus on the things they do have control over.

Working smarter, rather than harder, means arranging your work, concentrating on the tasks that will make a real difference rather than just blasting away in a disorganised fashion. 

Like many things that are worthwhile, it’s not easy in the beginning, but persistence pays off.

If you’re struggling with emotional issues, email info@emotionalskills.uk. Visit www.emotionalskills.uk
Emotionalskills sessions run in Northampton and are with Deanna Joyce, a degree qualified therapist who has also studied the theory of personality, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), focusing, mindfulness, couples/group therapy and creative thinking.

*Survey commissioned by the Mental Health Foundation and undertaken by YouGov, polled 4,169 adults in the UK in 2018.